my daughter is 13 and outtahand

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my daughter posts herself older than what she is online meeting guys and writting nasty stuff she dyed her hair jet black and wears black clothes i discovered this when i typed google in to download antivirus on her computer it came up all these nasty porn sites and i searched her pictures too u dont even want to know what i discovered it was so nasty i confronted her about this she got mad called me horrible names say she wished id dye and that she was going to kill herself i grounded her from her computer and for a while she was ok then i discovered she had done more she posted nasty blogs on myspace and my yearbook ande her pictures looked as though she was on drugs i called socialservices trying 2 get her concilling but they have not bothered getting her help she is so smart she deleted the parental codes off the computer she lives with her grandmother and she sneaks out to meet boys at 300 in morning i have told the grandmother about this she does nothing she even has her her age as 16 and 17 on these sites and i discovered she has men added to her page 683 last i checked she kind of blocked me completely after i confronted her and she called me horrible names i have tried to get her conciling through socialservices but they not come plese help me before she drives me crazy
Last Post May 18, 2012 5:38 AM by: Radiologist
Radiologist
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Re: my daughter is 13 and outtahand

May 18, 2012 5:38 AM
The best way to deal with your daughter may just to give her some time to grow up? Nearly all kids get reasonable over time.

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Mark12Holley
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Re: my daughter is 13 and outtahand

Apr 26, 2012 3:48 AM
I make amends to my mother by being the best daughter I can possibly be. I also try to help other women who have had the same issues by not being judgmental and by sharing my experience, strength and hope with them.
Odai Abod
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Re: my daughter is 13 and outtahand

Apr 20, 2012 10:27 PM
Hello...

I guess what happened between the two of you is the result of excommunication. Because conflicts/misunderstanding usually happens if the other side fails to communicate. Thus it is necessary to talk with your child as the parent in a soft manner. Ask anything, especially the things she did and the situations she encountered for the day. You may include your reaction on your discussion but you must sound as though you empathize the situation. Always give example to situation give a lesson. Adolescents aside from being sensitive, also they can easily be manipulated. As parent, it is your responsible to inculcate to your child her self-worth, her
purpose, her sense of identity and her direction for her future.
Ashleypilany
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Re: my daughter is 13 and outtahand

Apr 19, 2012 8:56 PM
It is really a big problem. I think you should have a good talk with her.
custinNicole
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Re: my daughter is 13 and outtahand

Apr 8, 2012 12:59 AM
I'm sorry to hear that. I think you should spend more time with her.
Stacylthurman
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Re: my daughter is 13 and outtahand

Apr 4, 2012 9:34 PM
I am sorry you are having to go through this with your daughter. I acted the same way when I was 13. It was not my parents fault. They did not raise me to behave the way I did. I had self-esteem issues and the only thing that made me feel better about me was the attention I received from men. I am now 32 years old and have been in recovery for over 7 years. I now have an excellent relationship with my mother. She is one of my best friends.

I am not sure counseling would have helped me at that time. I feel in order for counseling to be affective you have to be honest. I am not sure if I understood enough of why I acted the way I did to be honest. Today I have a healthy self-esteem and I make amends to my mother by being the best daughter I can possibly be. I also try to help other women who have had the same issues by not being judgmental and by sharing my experience, strength and hope with them.

I have a 13 year old sister who is the exact opposite of the way I was. I worry about her being naive when it comes to men and online safety. I recently wrote an article that I shared with her regarding a 13 year old girl who was abducted, raped and beaten by an online predator. My article can be found at the following link www.streetarticles.com/parenting/online-predators-are-real-your-child-could-be-at-risk. After she read the article I had her google the girls name so she could locate the video where the girl was describing what had happened. I am hoping these things would scare her into being more cautious online but I know there is only so much we can do. I will send some prayers your way and hope that one day your daughter will get better so you can have a good relationship with her. My mom also had to go to a recovery program in order to cope with my craziness. It really helped her in many different ways.
Terryn
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Re: my daughter is 13 and outtahand/?

Mar 13, 2012 5:23 AM
Tell her unless she starts behaving like an adult and starts to share responsibility you will be moving to somewhere smaller by yourself and she will be responsible for all the bills and upkeep of the house herself.
stellar
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Re: my daughter is 13 and outtahand

Mar 6, 2012 1:58 PM
I'm sorry that you are going through this difficult time. I guess, my advice is to bring out the tough love act. You are the parent and she the kid, make her know that you are responsible and have authority over her. Ground her, take away her privileges especially her computer. If all else fails, there are places you can send her that can sort her out and knows how to deal with this. I suggest the military boot camp. They can discipline her and she is bound to listen and lessen the tantrums since she isn't at home where she can do as she please. Try it out because this might be what she need.
Cecilia33
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Re: my daughter is 13 and outtahand

Feb 20, 2012 9:41 AM
The best way to deal with your daughter may just to give her some time to grow up? Nearly all kids get reasonable over time.
jewelry1
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Re: my daughter is 13 and outtahand

Feb 19, 2012 1:49 AM
I have no child now,but hope to know how to teach the chilren and let them life better
eck1960
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Re: my daughter is 13 and outtahand

Dec 29, 2011 7:53 PM
Hi Sara,
you're daughter sounds so much like my 15 year old daughter though she started acting out of control when she was 14 only after my mother had passed away september of 2010, I cannot understand why my daughter acts the way she does I have always done good for her raised her the best way possible as any parent could but in return she says she hates me,she does not call me & rarely visits with me, I have to call her & doesn't return my calls though she will come over for few hours for this last christmas to get gifts or she will call when she wants some new electronic device new phone or whatever else,
last year I only got to see her for about 6 days out of that year very sad & hurtful to say the least!! things are just not the same what it use to be remembering my daughter as a very happy child in the past & use to say dad I love you nothing like this anymore so I am trying to deal with this the best way I can through prayer & yes like you as a grown man I cry over it but I am asking God to help me through this ordeal,I know we are not the only ones dealing with this rebellion from our children so many kids today have turned this way which are brought on by numerous of things such as divorce,pear pressures etc I would say just keep praying & keep getting you're love across to her someday they will change it's just going to take some time,God bless
tia mariua
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From: leeds
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Re: my daughter is 13 and outtahand

Dec 29, 2011 6:44 PM
my daughter sat in my living room tonight and because she was angry with me sat and said in front of the love of my life that I made love to another man and she heard me this iscompletely untrue i cant beleive she would do this please help with this
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Re: my daughter is 13 and outtahand

Dec 29, 2011 2:17 AM
Thank for this such a nice suggestions.Its Really Nice.
Habbakuk
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Re: my daughter is 13 and outtahand

Dec 26, 2011 9:47 PM
I have one thing to say to you.

AS HER PARENT, IT IS YOUR OWN FAULT.

If she is like that at age 13, anything you try to do to stop her will alienate you from her even further. It's your fault she is in that state, and you'd better learn how to accept the way she is or you will lose her and she will hate you. Replica Watches Replica Watch Rolex Replica Watches Replica Watch Swiss Watch Replicas
arabellaB
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Re: my daughter is 13 and outtahand

Nov 16, 2011 9:05 PM
Maybe you just have to guide and give your daughter an advise in term of having a relationship. There should be a balance with her studies and boyfriend.
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