gday,iam a 46 year old farmer from Australia ,i have 3 beautiful teenage kids 19 16 and13,i have been separated for just over 12 months and wow how things have changed or evolved in that period. A quick bio ,wife walked out with the kids just before xmas 2010,saying she needed to find her self,and believing i was having an affair. On reflection our marriage was in trouble two years before she left.She has been diagnosed with depression which may have started when we moved and changed jobs in 2008.She is a great mum but is one of these people who cant or wont let go of anger or has not found away to deal with it ,which has been a battle right through our relationship of 27 years . Since the split i have meet someone and this has certainly fired things up with the ex. Eldest daughter 19 is great, has a beautiful heart, living with her boy friend and we are building on our father daughter relationship,but she is so mixed up or involved in our marriage split ,she just cant seem to say no to her mother.Middle child, daughter 16 has a beautiful nature but is so so much like her mum holding onto anger and not been able to deal with problems. youngest son 13 , is full of love and life, bright and for his age very mature.up until a week ago we had a great relationship.but now he has shut down and dosent want to see me or talk to me, he said ( i need a couple of months to think about things).i have been seen a family councilor for many months and ,i,am trying to get the kids to a family counseling session so we can talk or get all the issues on the table , but to date has been rejected by all parties. has any one got any good ideas on how to get my kids back on talking terms'.???????????
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Mark_Manning
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Re: my teenage kids have stop talking to me and dont want to see me
Jan 16, 2012 8:23 AM
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hi william,
your post is a little chaotic. but i think i got most of what your trying to say. if it were me, i would go back to the very root of the problem. in which i think, your relationship with your wife. your kids are naturally caught in between. as what you have mentioned your kids great. they should have a good reason about not talking to you. in which i think you should talk it with your ex. maybe you could find out something. just continue reaching out to them. give them time, patience is a virtue after all. endure and hope for the best. good luck.
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frutiogo
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Re: my teenage kids have stop talking to me and dont want to see me
Jan 15, 2012 2:08 AM
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Hi Wiliam, I would love to reply to your question, but it is so difficult to read. Could you rearange your post i order to make it more readable?
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william 65
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my teenage kids have stop talking to me and dont want to see me
Jan 14, 2012 5:26 PM
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gday,iam a 46 year old farmer from Australia ,i have 3 beautiful teenage kids 19 16 and13,i have been separated for just over 12 months and wow how things have changed or evolved in that period. A quick bio ,wife walked out with the kids just before xmas 2010,saying she needed to find her self,and believing i was having an affair. On reflection our marriage was in trouble two years before she left.She has been diagnosed with depression which may have started when we moved and changed jobs in 2008.She is a great mum but is one of these people who cant or wont let go of anger or has not found away to deal with it ,which has been a battle right through our relationship of 27 years . Since the split i have meet someone and this has certainly fired things up with the ex. Eldest daughter 19 is great, has a beautiful heart, living with her boy friend and we are building on our father daughter relationship,but she is so mixed up or involved in our marriage split ,she just cant seem to say no to her mother.Middle child, daughter 16 has a beautiful nature but is so so much like her mum holding onto anger and not been able to deal with problems. youngest son 13 , is full of love and life, bright and for his age very mature.up until a week ago we had a great relationship.but now he has shut down and dosent want to see me or talk to me, he said ( i need a couple of months to think about things).i have been seen a family councilor for many months and ,i,am trying to get the kids to a family counseling session so we can talk or get all the issues on the table , but to date has been rejected by all parties. has any one got any good ideas on how to get my kids back on talking terms'.???????????
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